“Healing takes the grace of Courage because it often requires us to excavate the depths of our own dark thoughts, fantasies, and desires.
Wounds fester within us, and because they are poison they fill us with poisonous thoughts. We often embrace these thoughts because the idea of telling someone off—humiliating them or punishing them for hurting us—makes us feel empowered.
But such actions never work—never. If we bring it up, those people will respond to us by saying, “What are you talking about? I never did that to you.”
Your pain is your pain—not anyone else’s. And it’s certainly not real to those who hurt you, any more than you can feel the pain you yourself have “inflicted on others.
No doubt you would deny how deeply you have hurt others if they confronted you; think about that. Everyone’s healing is a personal journey, and that’s all there is to it. It takes the grace of Courage to finally face that truth.
Lord, grant me the Courage to confront my own darkness, my own inner shadow, my own blockages to love.
I may think of myself as loving, but the truth is that I love conveniently.
I am afraid of the power of love.
It takes Courage to be unconditionally loving.
Help me open my heart beyond the boundaries of my own safety net. I have no idea what strangers or even foes might find their way into my heart. But unconditional love is exactly that: love without conditions.”
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