Resentment and grievances form an essential part of their sense of self.
Even if your grievances are completely “justified,”you have constructed an identity for yourself that is much like a prison whose bars are made of thought forms. See what you are doing to yourself, or rather what your mind is doing to you. Feel the emotional attachment you have to your victim story and become aware of the compulsion to think or talk about it. Be there as the witnessing presence of your inner state. You don’t have to do anything. With awareness comes transformation and freedom.”
Excerpt From: Tolle, Eckhart. “Stillness Speaks.”